There are many theories and methodologies about how we reach our life goals. Here are just a few of the possibilities being analyzed by science and spiritual leaders.
* Financial Status – Family money, high-income job, or poverty-stricken
* Personality or Ego – Fear or lack of – discipline or lack of – vision or blank thoughts
* Family History – Our father’s son, our mother’s daughter, generations of success or failure
* Cultural Background – Stereotypes, discrimination
* Education – Community college, ivy league or dropout
* Body Chemistry – chemistry imbalance or high metabolism
* Pre-determination or God’s Will
* Luck – right place at the right time
Keep in mind that our destiny has nothing to do with fame and glory. It is simply the place one finds satisfaction or contentment (also known as the right thing to do). Our question here is how much control do we have to fulfill our destiny.
“People often meet their destiny on the road they take to avoid it” – French Proverb
Do the truly wealthy manage to reach their life goals? When we look at the generations brought forth from one wealthy scion after another, the answer would be No. How about those born into affluent families but not really wealthy? These generations do seem to bear more fruit. There is also the family pressure to perform and create self-staining lives.
Poverty is more a state of mind that an actual reality. In today’s world the stigma of being poor does not separate anyone by class as in the past. Once the mental mantle of poverty is thrown aside, anything is possible.
Personality – Our Own Personal Fears
Strangely our own personal fears may be the spark that drives our internal engine. Into this category falls a mixture of many elements that basically boil down to a “lack of” or “enough of” philosophy that really has nothing to do with wealth. If we think that everyone is judging us, it inhibits our personal progress. If we fail to develop skills that generate independence, are we lazy or just unmotivated?
How important is the past, particularly our own family history. Understanding our past can intimidate or elevate our personal progress. Using a family member as a role model can provide motivation to succeed, or doom us to failure. If we are constantly reminded of our heritage in a positive way, this can motivate us. The opposite is also true. Living up to the standards of our ancestors can lift us up or bring us down.
Cultural Background – Heroes or Villains
The re-insurgence of super heroes in movies, video games, and novels lead us to believe that a part of our population is hungry for saviors that do not sell their integrity or goals to the highest bidder as has been demonstrated in the political and corporate arenas.
Human nature never seem to change through the ages, even as technology advances…but super heroes remain forever willing to sacrifice their personal life for the good of humanity.
Education – Propelling Our Children to Fulfillment
It may be too late for the older generation to re-visualize their destiny, but they can pave a path for their children and grandchildren. Taking each day as an opportunity to make a difference can change the world in which they revolve. Each connection they make in their family circle can spread way beyond their reach. Just listening when someone speaks and really hearing the message can bring about a life change for someone.
Learning From the Past
You know the old adage “those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.” The truth may lie in the understanding of our own history. Looking backward, what decisions did we make and why. Did we live to regret each decision or find fulfillment in it? The answer is in the “why.” Did we make the right decisions (or the wrong decisions) based on information from whom?
Health – Chemical Imbalance
The state of our body’s health can often determine the path we take. As healers have known for thousands of years, diet and stress are the determining factors in helping our body feel at ease. Hence the word “disease” was coined from “lack of ease or dis-ease” in the body and mind.
The Impact of Religious Beliefs
If we believe that a higher power guides us through any decision-making process, then the responsibility to live our life according to these tenants is more binding. If we only “think” we should because of our physical relationship with an organized group or list of values outside ourselves, then we will certainly fall short of our potential destiny.
The Impact of Luck
We need “luck” to accept certain elements in our lives over which we have no conscious control. Luck is always defined as a good thing. Those of us that consider ourselves “lucky” seem to find luck everywhere. We rely on it, depend on it, factor it into every decision we make. This allows the lucky to take more risks, extend themselves farther into the unknown, and perhaps face their past more heroically than those that do not consider themselves lucky.
Destiny or Fate?
“Destiny is something we choose to go after…. Fate is something that happens to us, and seemingly takes away our choices, but in fact actually leads us back towards the choice of Destiny we already made before we were born.”…Order Of The White Lion
“I seldom end up where I wanted to go, but almost always end up where I need to be.”…Douglas Adams
“It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.”…Anthony Robbins
“The willing, Destiny guides them; the unwilling, Destiny drags them”…Seneca
“Every man has his own destiny: the only imperative is to follow it, to accept it, no matter where it leads him.”…Henry Miller
We are asking “why are we here” and demanding answers. Our children and grandchildren are asking the same question. The answers are out there, go find them…or perhaps we need to be open to allowing the answers to come to us.